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--- a/leadership.html +++ b/leadership.html @@ -3,16 +3,16 @@ <head> <meta charset="UTF-8"> <meta name="viewport" content="width=device-width, initial-scale=1.0"> - <title>The 15 Commitments of Conscious Leadership Cheatsheet (Detailed & Animated)</title> - <meta name="description" content="An interactive cheatsheet summarizing The 15 Commitments of Conscious Leadership by Dethmer, Chapman, & Klemp. Learn to lead 'above the line' with detailed tooltips, references, and animations."> - <meta name="keywords" content="Conscious Leadership, 15 Commitments, Jim Dethmer, Diana Chapman, Kaley Klemp, leadership, cheatsheet, above the line, below the line, responsibility, curiosity, candor, integrity, appreciation, zone of genius, play, rest, gossip, sufficiency, ally, win-for-all, resolution, leadership development, Byron Katie, Sedona Method, Gay Hendricks, Lynne Twist, Gottman Institute, AOS, animation on scroll, To Me, By Me, Through Me, As Me"> + <title>The 15 Commitments of Conscious Leadership Cheatsheet (Detailed & Expandable)</title> + <meta name="description" content="An interactive cheatsheet summarizing The 15 Commitments of Conscious Leadership by Dethmer, Chapman, & Klemp. Learn to lead 'above the line' with detailed expandable sections, references, and animations."> + <meta name="keywords" content="Conscious Leadership, 15 Commitments, Jim Dethmer, Diana Chapman, Kaley Klemp, leadership, cheatsheet, above the line, below the line, responsibility, curiosity, candor, integrity, appreciation, zone of genius, play, rest, gossip, sufficiency, ally, win-for-all, resolution, leadership development, Byron Katie, Sedona Method, Gay Hendricks, Lynne Twist, Gottman Institute, AOS, animation on scroll, To Me, By Me, Through Me, As Me, expandable sections, collapse"> <meta name="author" content="David Veksler"> <link rel="canonical" href="https://cheatsheets.davidveksler.com/leadership.html"> <!-- Open Graph / Facebook / LinkedIn --> - <meta property="og:title" content="Conscious Leadership Cheatsheet: The 15 Commitments"> - <meta property="og:description" content="Master the 15 Commitments of Conscious Leadership. Explore 'Above the Line' principles with this detailed, interactive cheatsheet featuring tooltips and references."> + <meta property="og:title" content="Conscious Leadership Cheatsheet: The 15 Commitments (Expandable)"> + <meta property="og:description" content="Master the 15 Commitments of Conscious Leadership. Explore 'Above the Line' principles with this detailed, interactive cheatsheet featuring expandable sections and references."> <meta property="og:type" content="article"> <meta property="og:url" content="https://cheatsheets.davidveksler.com/leadership.html"> <meta property="og:image" content="https://cheatsheets.davidveksler.com/images/conscious-leadership-og.jpg" content="image/jpeg"> @@ -25,8 +25,8 @@ <!-- Twitter Card --> <meta name="twitter:card" content="summary_large_image"> - <meta name="twitter:title" content="Conscious Leadership Cheatsheet: The 15 Commitments Explained"> - <meta name="twitter:description" content="Lead 'Above the Line'! 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*/ /* Might add too much space */ + } + /* Better: add margin *below* the expandable content itself */ + .expandable-content { + margin-bottom: 0.8rem; /* Ensure space before the next list item starts */ + } + /* Remove extra bottom margin from the list item itself if the expandable provides it */ + li:has(+ .expandable-content) { + /* margin-bottom: 0; */ /* Let expandable handle spacing */ + } + /* Target expandable content directly following a list item for spacing */ + li + .expandable-content { + margin-top: 0.5rem; /* Space between li and its expanded content */ + margin-bottom: 0.8rem; /* Space after expanded content before next li */ + } + footer { padding: 2.5rem 0; @@ -263,19 +322,55 @@ <div class="info-card" id="above-below-card"> <div class="card-body"> <h5><i class="bi bi-graph-up-arrow"></i> Leading from Above the Line</h5> - <p class="card-text">Conscious leadership involves recognizing whether you are operating "<span data-bs-toggle="tooltip" data-bs-html="true" title="Leading from Above the Line means being open, curious, and committed to learning. You experience trust and security.">Above the Line</span>" or "<span data-bs-toggle="tooltip" data-bs-html="true" title="Leading from Below the Line means being closed, defensive, and committed to being right. Driven by (often unconscious) fear and the ego's need to survive.">Below the Line</span>".</p> + <p class="card-text">Conscious leadership involves recognizing whether you are operating " + <a class="expandable-trigger" data-bs-toggle="collapse" href="#collapse-above" role="button" aria-expanded="false" aria-controls="collapse-above">Above the Line <i class="bi bi-chevron-down"></i></a>" or " + <a class="expandable-trigger" data-bs-toggle="collapse" href="#collapse-below" role="button" aria-expanded="false" aria-controls="collapse-below">Below the Line <i class="bi bi-chevron-down"></i></a>". + </p> + <div class="collapse expandable-content" id="collapse-above"> + <p>Leading from Above the Line means being open, curious, and committed to learning. You experience trust and security.</p> + </div> + <div class="collapse expandable-content" id="collapse-below"> + <p>Leading from Below the Line means being closed, defensive, and committed to being right. Driven by (often unconscious) fear and the ego's need to survive.</p> + </div> + <ul> <li><strong>Below the Line:</strong> Primary commitment is to being right; defensive; closed; reactive; ego-driven survival based on perceived threat (real or imagined).</li> <li><strong>Above the Line:</strong> Primary commitment is to learning; curious; open; leading from security and trust. Enables creativity, innovation, and collaboration.</li> <li><strong>The Shift:</strong> Actively moving from a below-the-line state (closed, defensive, right) to an above-the-line state (open, curious, learning). A master skill of conscious leaders.</li> - <li><strong><span data-bs-toggle="tooltip" title="The first mark of conscious leaders. The ability to accurately perceive one's own state (thoughts, feelings, body sensations, above/below the line) without judgment or distortion.">Self-Awareness</span>:</strong> The foundation is knowing your state and telling yourself the truth.</li> + <li> + <a class="expandable-trigger" data-bs-toggle="collapse" href="#collapse-self-aware" role="button" aria-expanded="false" aria-controls="collapse-self-aware"><strong>Self-Awareness</strong> <i class="bi bi-chevron-down"></i></a>: The foundation is knowing your state and telling yourself the truth. + </li> </ul> + <div class="collapse expandable-content" id="collapse-self-aware"> + <p>The first mark of conscious leaders. The ability to accurately perceive one's own state (thoughts, feelings, body sensations, above/below the line) without judgment or distortion.</p> + </div> + <div class="state-heading">Four Contexts (Ways of Leading): <a href="https://cheatsheets.davidveksler.com/conscious-leadership-contexts.html" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer" class="small">(See Details)</a></div> <ul> - <li><strong data-bs-toggle="tooltip" title="Below the Line state. Life happens 'to me'. Victim consciousness: seeing oneself as 'at the effect of' external people, circumstances, or conditions. Characterized by blame and lack of responsibility.">To Me:</strong> Victim consciousness, blaming external factors.</li> - <li><strong data-bs-toggle="tooltip" title="Above the Line state. Life happens 'by me' or 'for me'. Creator consciousness: taking 100% responsibility for creating one's experience. Seeing events as opportunities for learning. Asks 'What can I learn?'">By Me:</strong> Taking responsibility, focuses on learning from experiences.</li> - <li><strong data-bs-toggle="tooltip" title="Above the Line state. Life happens 'through me'. Opening to something beyond the personal 'me'. Experiencing oneself as a channel for creativity, purpose, or flow. Characterized by surrender.">Through Me:</strong> Aligned with a higher purpose or flow.</li> - <li><strong data-bs-toggle="tooltip" title="Above the Line state. Life happens 'as me'. Experiencing oneness or unity consciousness. Realizing there is no separation and often, no personal 'me'. Questions cease.">As Me:</strong> Embodies oneness and universality.</li> + <li> + <a class="expandable-trigger" data-bs-toggle="collapse" href="#collapse-to-me" role="button" aria-expanded="false" aria-controls="collapse-to-me"><strong>To Me:</strong> <i class="bi bi-chevron-down"></i></a> Victim consciousness, blaming external factors. + </li> + <div class="collapse expandable-content" id="collapse-to-me"> + <p>Below the Line state. Life happens 'to me'. Victim consciousness: seeing oneself as 'at the effect of' external people, circumstances, or conditions. Characterized by blame and lack of responsibility.</p> + </div> + <li> + <a class="expandable-trigger" data-bs-toggle="collapse" href="#collapse-by-me" role="button" aria-expanded="false" aria-controls="collapse-by-me"><strong>By Me:</strong> <i class="bi bi-chevron-down"></i></a> Taking responsibility, focuses on learning from experiences. + </li> + <div class="collapse expandable-content" id="collapse-by-me"> + <p>Above the Line state. Life happens 'by me' or 'for me'. Creator consciousness: taking 100% responsibility for creating one's experience. Seeing events as opportunities for learning. Asks 'What can I learn?'</p> + </div> + <li> + <a class="expandable-trigger" data-bs-toggle="collapse" href="#collapse-through-me" role="button" aria-expanded="false" aria-controls="collapse-through-me"><strong>Through Me:</strong> <i class="bi bi-chevron-down"></i></a> Aligned with a higher purpose or flow. + </li> + <div class="collapse expandable-content" id="collapse-through-me"> + <p>Above the Line state. Life happens 'through me'. Opening to something beyond the personal 'me'. Experiencing oneself as a channel for creativity, purpose, or flow. Characterized by surrender.</p> + </div> + <li> + <a class="expandable-trigger" data-bs-toggle="collapse" href="#collapse-as-me" role="button" aria-expanded="false" aria-controls="collapse-as-me"><strong>As Me:</strong> <i class="bi bi-chevron-down"></i></a> Embodies oneness and universality. + </li> + <div class="collapse expandable-content" id="collapse-as-me"> + <p>Above the Line state. Life happens 'as me'. Experiencing oneness or unity consciousness. Realizing there is no separation and often, no personal 'me'. Questions cease.</p> + </div> </ul> </div> </div> @@ -285,14 +380,36 @@ <div class="info-card"> <div class="card-body"> <h5><i class="bi bi-bullseye"></i> 1: Taking Radical Responsibility</h5> - <p class="card-text">Commit to <span data-bs-toggle="tooltip" title="Seeing yourself as the creator and source of your experiences and circumstances (physical, emotional, mental, spiritual). Locating the cause and control within, rather than blaming external events, others, or self. The gateway from 'To Me' to 'By Me' consciousness.">100% responsibility</span> for your life and well-being.</p> + <p class="card-text">Commit to <a class="expandable-trigger" data-bs-toggle="collapse" href="#collapse-resp1" role="button" aria-expanded="false" aria-controls="collapse-resp1">100% responsibility <i class="bi bi-chevron-down"></i></a> for your life and well-being.</p> + <div class="collapse expandable-content" id="collapse-resp1"> + <p>Seeing yourself as the creator and source of your experiences and circumstances (physical, emotional, mental, spiritual). Locating the cause and control within, rather than blaming external events, others, or self. The gateway from 'To Me' to 'By Me' consciousness.</p> + </div> <ul> <li>Shift from believing the world *should* be a certain way to accepting how it shows up (seeing reality).</li> <li>Move from rigidity and self-righteousness to curiosity, learning, and wonder.</li> - <li><span data-bs-toggle="tooltip" title="Self-blame is still 'below the line' and rooted in toxic fear (like blaming others). Responsibility focuses on learning and response ('response-ability'), not fault or shame.">Self-blame is NOT responsibility</span>; it's still toxic.</li> + <li> + <a class="expandable-trigger" data-bs-toggle="collapse" href="#collapse-resp2" role="button" aria-expanded="false" aria-controls="collapse-resp2">Self-blame is NOT responsibility <i class="bi bi-chevron-down"></i></a>; it's still toxic. + </li> + <div class="collapse expandable-content" id="collapse-resp2"> + <p>Self-blame is still 'below the line' and rooted in toxic fear (like blaming others). Responsibility focuses on learning and response ('response-ability'), not fault or shame.</p> + </div> <li>Support others in taking responsibility (primarily by embodying it yourself).</li> - <li>Recognize <span data-bs-toggle="tooltip" data-bs-html="true" title="5 levels identified: <br>1. Toxic Fear (blame/shame/guilt - leaves residue) <br>2. Extrinsic ($/perks - leaves residue) <br>3. Intrinsic (learning/purpose/autonomy) <br>4. Play/Creativity/Genius <br>5. Love <br>Conscious leaders primarily use 3-5.">motivation levels</span> and lead from levels 3-5.</li> - <li>Identify <span data-bs-toggle="tooltip" title="The dynamic driven by toxic fear where people play roles of Victim ('poor me', at the effect of), Villain (blamer), or Hero (over-functioning rescuer who avoids the real issue).">Victim-Villain-Hero</span> drama and step out of it.</li> + <li>Recognize <a class="expandable-trigger" data-bs-toggle="collapse" href="#collapse-resp3" role="button" aria-expanded="false" aria-controls="collapse-resp3">motivation levels <i class="bi bi-chevron-down"></i></a> and lead from levels 3-5.</li> + <div class="collapse expandable-content" id="collapse-resp3"> + <p>5 levels identified:</p> + <ol> + <li>Toxic Fear (blame/shame/guilt - leaves residue)</li> + <li>Extrinsic ($/perks - leaves residue)</li> + <li>Intrinsic (learning/purpose/autonomy)</li> + <li>Play/Creativity/Genius</li> + <li>Love</li> + </ol> + <p class="small mb-0">Conscious leaders primarily use 3-5.</p> + </div> + <li>Identify <a class="expandable-trigger" data-bs-toggle="collapse" href="#collapse-resp4" role="button" aria-expanded="false" aria-controls="collapse-resp4">Victim-Villain-Hero <i class="bi bi-chevron-down"></i></a> drama and step out of it.</li> + <div class="collapse expandable-content" id="collapse-resp4"> + <p>The dynamic driven by toxic fear where people play roles of Victim ('poor me', at the effect of), Villain (blamer), or Hero (over-functioning rescuer who avoids the real issue).</p> + </div> </ul> </div> </div> @@ -305,10 +422,24 @@ <p class="card-text">Commit to growing in self-awareness and regarding every interaction as a learning opportunity. Prioritize learning over being right.</p> <ul> <li>Curiosity is the path to rapid learning. End blame and criticism.</li> - <li>Key leadership predictors: <strong data-bs-toggle="tooltip" title="Knowing your internal state (thoughts, feelings, sensations) and locating yourself above/below the line.">Self-awareness</strong>, <span data-bs-toggle="tooltip" title="The ability and willingness to learn from experience and apply that learning to perform successfully under new or first-time conditions. Highly valued by conscious leaders.">Learning Agility</span>, Communication, Influence.</li> + <li>Key leadership predictors: <a class="expandable-trigger" data-bs-toggle="collapse" href="#collapse-cur1" role="button" aria-expanded="false" aria-controls="collapse-cur1"><strong>Self-awareness</strong> <i class="bi bi-chevron-down"></i></a>, <a class="expandable-trigger" data-bs-toggle="collapse" href="#collapse-cur2" role="button" aria-expanded="false" aria-controls="collapse-cur2">Learning Agility <i class="bi bi-chevron-down"></i></a>, Communication, Influence.</li> + <div class="collapse expandable-content" id="collapse-cur1"> + <p>Knowing your internal state (thoughts, feelings, sensations) and locating yourself above/below the line.</p> + </div> + <div class="collapse expandable-content" id="collapse-cur2"> + <p>The ability and willingness to learn from experience and apply that learning to perform successfully under new or first-time conditions. Highly valued by conscious leaders.</p> + </div> <li>Pause, breathe consciously, and ask: "Where am I - above or below the line?" Accept the answer without judgment.</li> - <li><span data-bs-toggle="tooltip" title="Open-ended curiosity without needing an immediate answer or solution. Exploring the unknown, asking questions like 'I wonder what...?'">Wonder</span> is a key shift move and state of consciousness.</li> - <li>Practice <strong data-bs-toggle="tooltip" title="Consciously moving from Below the Line (closed, defensive, right) to Above the Line (open, curious, learning). Examples: Conscious breathing, changing posture, asking wonder questions.">Shift Moves</strong> to interrupt reactivity.</li> + <li> + <a class="expandable-trigger" data-bs-toggle="collapse" href="#collapse-cur3" role="button" aria-expanded="false" aria-controls="collapse-cur3">Wonder <i class="bi bi-chevron-down"></i></a> is a key shift move and state of consciousness. + </li> + <div class="collapse expandable-content" id="collapse-cur3"> + <p>Open-ended curiosity without needing an immediate answer or solution. Exploring the unknown, asking questions like 'I wonder what...?'</p> + </div> + <li>Practice <a class="expandable-trigger" data-bs-toggle="collapse" href="#collapse-cur4" role="button" aria-expanded="false" aria-controls="collapse-cur4"><strong>Shift Moves</strong> <i class="bi bi-chevron-down"></i></a> to interrupt reactivity.</li> + <div class="collapse expandable-content" id="collapse-cur4"> + <p>Consciously moving from Below the Line (closed, defensive, right) to Above the Line (open, curious, learning). Examples: Conscious breathing, changing posture, asking wonder questions.</p> + </div> </ul> </div> </div> @@ -318,13 +449,25 @@ <div class="info-card"> <div class="card-body"> <h5><i class="bi bi-heart-pulse"></i> 3: Feeling All Feelings</h5> - <p class="card-text">Commit to feeling your feelings fully through to completion using <span data-bs-toggle="tooltip" title="Paying attention to physical sensations in the body associated with emotions. Locating where the feeling (energy in motion) manifests physically.">somatic awareness</span>, breath, movement, and vocalization.</p> + <p class="card-text">Commit to feeling your feelings fully through to completion using <a class="expandable-trigger" data-bs-toggle="collapse" href="#collapse-feel1" role="button" aria-expanded="false" aria-controls="collapse-feel1">somatic awareness <i class="bi bi-chevron-down"></i></a>, breath, movement, and vocalization.</p> + <div class="collapse expandable-content" id="collapse-feel1"> + <p>Paying attention to physical sensations in the body associated with emotions. Locating where the feeling (energy in motion) manifests physically.</p> + </div> <ul> <li>Feelings aren't distractions; resisting or repressing them is. Access all centers: head (thinking), heart (feeling), gut (instinct/intuition).</li> - <li>Primary emotions: <strong data-bs-toggle="tooltip" title="Anger (boundary setting/destroying old), Fear (alertness/need for presence), Sadness (letting go), Joy (celebration/connection), Sexual Feelings (creativity/creation).">anger, fear, sadness, joy, sexual feelings</strong>. Label sensations accurately.</li> - <li>Feelings release naturally if not prevented (repression) or intensified by thoughts (recycling). Allow their full life cycle (<span data-bs-toggle="tooltip" title="Neuroanatomist Jill Bolte-Taylor suggests emotions are just physiological sensations lasting ~90 seconds if not perpetuated by thought loops.">often < 90 seconds</span>).</li> + <li>Primary emotions: <a class="expandable-trigger" data-bs-toggle="collapse" href="#collapse-feel2" role="button" aria-expanded="false" aria-controls="collapse-feel2"><strong>anger, fear, sadness, joy, sexual feelings</strong> <i class="bi bi-chevron-down"></i></a>. Label sensations accurately.</li> + <div class="collapse expandable-content" id="collapse-feel2"> + <p>Anger (boundary setting/destroying old), Fear (alertness/need for presence), Sadness (letting go), Joy (celebration/connection), Sexual Feelings (creativity/creation).</p> + </div> + <li>Feelings release naturally if not prevented (repression) or intensified by thoughts (recycling). Allow their full life cycle (<a class="expandable-trigger" data-bs-toggle="collapse" href="#collapse-feel3" role="button" aria-expanded="false" aria-controls="collapse-feel3">often < 90 seconds <i class="bi bi-chevron-down"></i></a>).</li> + <div class="collapse expandable-content" id="collapse-feel3"> + <p>Neuroanatomist Jill Bolte-Taylor suggests emotions are just physiological sensations lasting ~90 seconds if not perpetuated by thought loops.</p> + </div> <li>Distinguish authentic joy (unconditional well-being) from circumstantial happiness (dependent on external events).</li> - <li>Release process: <strong data-bs-toggle="tooltip" title="1. Locate the sensation (What are the bits doing?). 2. Breathe into it. 3. Allow/Accept/Appreciate it. 4. Match experience with expression (Move and Vocalize to match the sensation).">Locate, Breathe, Allow, Match</strong>.</li> + <li>Release process: <a class="expandable-trigger" data-bs-toggle="collapse" href="#collapse-feel4" role="button" aria-expanded="false" aria-controls="collapse-feel4"><strong>Locate, Breathe, Allow, Match</strong> <i class="bi bi-chevron-down"></i></a>.</li> + <div class="collapse expandable-content" id="collapse-feel4"> + <p>1. Locate the sensation (What are the bits doing?). 2. Breathe into it. 3. Allow/Accept/Appreciate it. 4. Match experience with expression (Move and Vocalize to match the sensation).</p> + </div> </ul> </div> </div> @@ -334,12 +477,31 @@ <div class="info-card"> <div class="card-body"> <h5><i class="bi bi-megaphone"></i> 4: Speaking Candidly</h5> - <p class="card-text">Commit to saying what is true for you (<span data-bs-toggle="tooltip" title="Revealing your authentic experience (facts, thoughts, feelings, sensations) responsibly, without withholding. Contrasts with concealing or manipulating. Rooted in love, not fear.">candor</span>) and being someone others can express themselves to (<strong data-bs-toggle="tooltip" title="Listening without filters (fixing, diagnosing, correcting, defending etc.) to understand the other's facts, feelings, and core desires. Requires presence and managing one's own reactivity.">conscious listening</strong>).</p> + <p class="card-text">Commit to saying what is true for you (<a class="expandable-trigger" data-bs-toggle="collapse" href="#collapse-candor1" role="button" aria-expanded="false" aria-controls="collapse-candor1">candor <i class="bi bi-chevron-down"></i></a>) and being someone others can express themselves to (<a class="expandable-trigger" data-bs-toggle="collapse" href="#collapse-candor2" role="button" aria-expanded="false" aria-controls="collapse-candor2"><strong>conscious listening</strong> <i class="bi bi-chevron-down"></i></a>).</p> + <div class="collapse expandable-content" id="collapse-candor1"> + <p>Revealing your authentic experience (facts, thoughts, feelings, sensations) responsibly, without withholding. Contrasts with concealing or manipulating. Rooted in love, not fear.</p> + </div> + <div class="collapse expandable-content" id="collapse-candor2"> + <p>Listening without filters (fixing, diagnosing, correcting, defending etc.) to understand the other's facts, feelings, and core desires. Requires presence and managing one's own reactivity.</p> + </div> <ul> <li>Reveal withheld thoughts, opinions, judgments, feelings, sensations (leads above the line). Withholding drains energy and creates disconnection.</li> - <li><span data-bs-toggle="tooltip" data-bs-html="true" title="1. Truth (accurate representation of inner state), 2. Openness (how much relevant info is revealed vs. withheld), 3. Awareness (consciousness of self/other/impact during reveal). Requires all three.">Three circles of candor:</span> Truth, Openness, Awareness.</li> - <li>Reveal what is <span data-bs-toggle="tooltip" data-bs-html="true" title="Statements about your own direct experience (thoughts, feelings, sensations) that others cannot reasonably dispute (e.g., 'I'm having the thought that...'). Concept from the <a href='https://hendricks.com/' target='_blank' rel='noopener'>Hendricks Institute</a>. Ends drama.">unarguable</span> to avoid drama and promote clarity.</li> - <li><span data-bs-toggle="tooltip" title="Recognizing your projections (attributing your own traits/feelings/motives to others). Ask, 'How is this judgment about them actually true about me?' Owns the projection instead of blaming.">"Eat" your projections:</span> Ask, "How is this true about me?"</li> + <li> + <a class="expandable-trigger" data-bs-toggle="collapse" href="#collapse-candor3" role="button" aria-expanded="false" aria-controls="collapse-candor3">Three circles of candor: <i class="bi bi-chevron-down"></i></a> Truth, Openness, Awareness. + </li> + <div class="collapse expandable-content" id="collapse-candor3"> + <p>1. Truth (accurate representation of inner state), 2. Openness (how much relevant info is revealed vs. withheld), 3. Awareness (consciousness of self/other/impact during reveal). Requires all three.</p> + </div> + <li>Reveal what is <a class="expandable-trigger" data-bs-toggle="collapse" href="#collapse-candor4" role="button" aria-expanded="false" aria-controls="collapse-candor4">unarguable <i class="bi bi-chevron-down"></i></a> to avoid drama and promote clarity.</li> + <div class="collapse expandable-content" id="collapse-candor4"> + <p>Statements about your own direct experience (thoughts, feelings, sensations) that others cannot reasonably dispute (e.g., 'I'm having the thought that...'). Concept from the <a href='https://hendricks.com/' target='_blank' rel='noopener'>Hendricks Institute</a>. Ends drama.</p> + </div> + <li> + <a class="expandable-trigger" data-bs-toggle="collapse" href="#collapse-candor5" role="button" aria-expanded="false" aria-controls="collapse-candor5">"Eat" your projections: <i class="bi bi-chevron-down"></i></a> Ask, "How is this true about me?" + </li> + <div class="collapse expandable-content" id="collapse-candor5"> + <p>Recognizing your projections (attributing your own traits/feelings/motives to others). Ask, 'How is this judgment about them actually true about me?' Owns the projection instead of blaming.</p> + </div> <li>Listen for feelings (heart center) and underlying desires (gut/instinctive center), not just content (head center).</li> </ul> </div> @@ -350,12 +512,24 @@ <div class="info-card"> <div class="card-body"> <h5><i class="bi bi-slash-circle"></i> 5: Eliminating Gossip</h5> - <p class="card-text">Commit to ending <span data-bs-toggle="tooltip" title="Talking *about* someone (esp. negatively or critically) when they aren't present, particularly regarding an issue you have with them, OR saying things you wouldn't say if they were present. Includes listening to gossip. Driven by fear, need for validation, control, etc.">gossip</span> by talking directly *to* people you have an issue with, using candor.</p> + <p class="card-text">Commit to ending <a class="expandable-trigger" data-bs-toggle="collapse" href="#collapse-gossip1" role="button" aria-expanded="false" aria-controls="collapse-gossip1">gossip <i class="bi bi-chevron-down"></i></a> by talking directly *to* people you have an issue with, using candor.</p> + <div class="collapse expandable-content" id="collapse-gossip1"> + <p>Talking *about* someone (esp. negatively or critically) when they aren't present, particularly regarding an issue you have with them, OR saying things you wouldn't say if they were present. Includes listening to gossip. Driven by fear, need for validation, control, etc.</p> + </div> <ul> <li>Encourage others to speak directly to the person involved.</li> <li>Listening to gossip is participating in it. Set boundaries.</li> - <li>Distinguish clearly between <span data-bs-toggle="tooltip" title="Observable, verifiable data points (what a video camera would record). Objective.">facts</span> and the <span data-bs-toggle="tooltip" title="Interpretations, assumptions, judgments, opinions, beliefs, meanings we assign to facts. Subjective and arguable.">stories</span> you create about them. Drama comes from believing stories are facts.</li> - <li>Being <span data-bs-toggle="tooltip" title="Achieved through full expression: saying everything related to the issue (facts, stories, feelings) and feeling all feelings through to completion. Use a Clearing Model.">"clear"</span> means full expression, often using a structured process like the Clearing Model.</li> + <li>Distinguish clearly between <a class="expandable-trigger" data-bs-toggle="collapse" href="#collapse-gossip2" role="button" aria-expanded="false" aria-controls="collapse-gossip2">facts <i class="bi bi-chevron-down"></i></a> and the <a class="expandable-trigger" data-bs-toggle="collapse" href="#collapse-gossip3" role="button" aria-expanded="false" aria-controls="collapse-gossip3">stories <i class="bi bi-chevron-down"></i></a> you create about them. Drama comes from believing stories are facts.</li> + <div class="collapse expandable-content" id="collapse-gossip2"> + <p>Observable, verifiable data points (what a video camera would record). Objective.</p> + </div> + <div class="collapse expandable-content" id="collapse-gossip3"> + <p>Interpretations, assumptions, judgments, opinions, beliefs, meanings we assign to facts. Subjective and arguable.</p> + </div> + <li>Being <a class="expandable-trigger" data-bs-toggle="collapse" href="#collapse-gossip4" role="button" aria-expanded="false" aria-controls="collapse-gossip4">"clear" <i class="bi bi-chevron-down"></i></a> means full expression, often using a structured process like the Clearing Model.</li> + <div class="collapse expandable-content" id="collapse-gossip4"> + <p>Achieved through full expression: saying everything related to the issue (facts, stories, feelings) and feeling all feelings through to completion. Use a Clearing Model.</p> + </div> </ul> </div> </div> @@ -365,13 +539,31 @@ <div class="info-card"> <div class="card-body"> <h5><i class="bi bi-shield-check"></i> 6: Practicing Integrity</h5> - <p class="card-text">Commit to masterful <span data-bs-toggle="tooltip" title="Wholeness, alignment, congruence. Means unbroken energy flow, matching inner experience with outer expression, and alignment with purpose. More than just morality/ethics.">integrity</span>.</p> + <p class="card-text">Commit to masterful <a class="expandable-trigger" data-bs-toggle="collapse" href="#collapse-integ1" role="button" aria-expanded="false" aria-controls="collapse-integ1">integrity <i class="bi bi-chevron-down"></i></a>.</p> + <div class="collapse expandable-content" id="collapse-integ1"> + <p>Wholeness, alignment, congruence. Means unbroken energy flow, matching inner experience with outer expression, and alignment with purpose. More than just morality/ethics.</p> + </div> <ul> - <li>Four pillars: <strong data-bs-toggle="tooltip" title="Commitment 1">Radical Responsibility</strong>, <strong data-bs-toggle="tooltip" title="Commitment 4">Speaking Candidly</strong>, <strong data-bs-toggle="tooltip" title="Commitment 3">Feeling Feelings</strong>, and <strong data-bs-toggle="tooltip" title="Doing what you said you would (or wouldn't) do by when. Includes agreements with self and others.">Keeping Agreements</strong>.</li> - <li>Breaches block energy flow and cause disengagement. There's no "small" breach (<span data-bs-toggle="tooltip" title="Concept attributed to leadership expert Tom Peters, emphasizing that even minor integrity lapses erode trust.">Tom Peters</span>).</li> - <li>Know when to lead unilaterally (assigning) vs. bilaterally (agreeing). Agreements require a <strong data-bs-toggle="tooltip" title="A total and unequivocal YES from mind, emotions, will, and body. Necessary for making conscious agreements.">whole body YES</strong>.</li> - <li>Impeccable people <strong data-bs-toggle="tooltip" title="Communicating as soon as you know you won't keep an agreement to change the 'what' or 'when', before the deadline passes.">renegotiate agreements</strong> promptly.</li> - <li>Continuously clean up breaches using tools like the <strong data-bs-toggle="tooltip" title="A practice of reviewing and addressing: Unexpressed feelings (Commitment 3), Unspoken truths/withholds (Commitment 4), Broken agreements (Commitment 6), and Unacknowledged responsibilities/blame (Commitment 1).">Integrity Inventory</strong> (unfelts, unsaids, unkepts, unowneds).</li> + <li>Four pillars: <strong>Radical Responsibility</strong> (C1), <strong>Speaking Candidly</strong> (C4), <strong>Feeling Feelings</strong> (C3), and <a class="expandable-trigger" data-bs-toggle="collapse" href="#collapse-integ2" role="button" aria-expanded="false" aria-controls="collapse-integ2"><strong>Keeping Agreements</strong> <i class="bi bi-chevron-down"></i></a>.</li> + <div class="collapse expandable-content" id="collapse-integ2"> + <p>Doing what you said you would (or wouldn't) do by when. Includes agreements with self and others.</p> + </div> + <li>Breaches block energy flow and cause disengagement. There's no "small" breach (<a class="expandable-trigger" data-bs-toggle="collapse" href="#collapse-integ3" role="button" aria-expanded="false" aria-controls="collapse-integ3">Tom Peters <i class="bi bi-chevron-down"></i></a>).</li> + <div class="collapse expandable-content" id="collapse-integ3"> + <p>Concept attributed to leadership expert Tom Peters, emphasizing that even minor integrity lapses erode trust.</p> + </div> + <li>Know when to lead unilaterally (assigning) vs. bilaterally (agreeing). Agreements require a <a class="expandable-trigger" data-bs-toggle="collapse" href="#collapse-integ4" role="button" aria-expanded="false" aria-controls="collapse-integ4"><strong>whole body YES</strong> <i class="bi bi-chevron-down"></i></a>.</li> + <div class="collapse expandable-content" id="collapse-integ4"> + <p>A total and unequivocal YES from mind, emotions, will, and body. Necessary for making conscious agreements.</p> + </div> + <li>Impeccable people <a class="expandable-trigger" data-bs-toggle="collapse" href="#collapse-integ5" role="button" aria-expanded="false" aria-controls="collapse-integ5"><strong>renegotiate agreements</strong> <i class="bi bi-chevron-down"></i></a> promptly.</li> + <div class="collapse expandable-content" id="collapse-integ5"> + <p>Communicating as soon as you know you won't keep an agreement to change the 'what' or 'when', before the deadline passes.</p> + </div> + <li>Continuously clean up breaches using tools like the <a class="expandable-trigger" data-bs-toggle="collapse" href="#collapse-integ6" role="button" aria-expanded="false" aria-controls="collapse-integ6"><strong>Integrity Inventory</strong> <i class="bi bi-chevron-down"></i></a> (unfelts, unsaids, unkepts, unowneds).</li> + <div class="collapse expandable-content" id="collapse-integ6"> + <p>A practice of reviewing and addressing: Unexpressed feelings (Commitment 3), Unspoken truths/withholds (Commitment 4), Broken agreements (Commitment 6), and Unacknowledged responsibilities/blame (Commitment 1).</p> + </div> </ul> </div> </div> @@ -381,13 +573,28 @@ <div class="info-card"> <div class="card-body"> <h5><i class="bi bi-gift"></i> 7: Generating Appreciation</h5> - <p class="card-text">Commit to living in <span data-bs-toggle="tooltip" title="Defined as having two parts: 1. Sensitive Awareness (paying attention, noticing fine distinctions) and 2. Increase in Value (intending for relationships/circumstances to become more valuable).">appreciation</span>, fully open to both receiving and giving it genuinely.</p> + <p class="card-text">Commit to living in <a class="expandable-trigger" data-bs-toggle="collapse" href="#collapse-apprec1" role="button" aria-expanded="false" aria-controls="collapse-apprec1">appreciation <i class="bi bi-chevron-down"></i></a>, fully open to both receiving and giving it genuinely.</p> + <div class="collapse expandable-content" id="collapse-apprec1"> + <p>Defined as having two parts: 1. Sensitive Awareness (paying attention, noticing fine distinctions) and 2. Increase in Value (intending for relationships/circumstances to become more valuable).</p> + </div> <ul> - <li>First step is <strong data-bs-toggle="tooltip" title="Paying attention with fresh eyes to notice nuances and details in people and situations.">sensitive awareness</strong>. What you place attention on grows.</li> + <li>First step is <a class="expandable-trigger" data-bs-toggle="collapse" href="#collapse-apprec2" role="button" aria-expanded="false" aria-controls="collapse-apprec2"><strong>sensitive awareness</strong> <i class="bi bi-chevron-down"></i></a>. What you place attention on grows.</li> + <div class="collapse expandable-content" id="collapse-apprec2"> + <p>Paying attention with fresh eyes to notice nuances and details in people and situations.</p> + </div> <li>Refusing appreciation (e.g., deflecting, downgrading) robs the giver and denies a truth about yourself.</li> - <li>Aim for a high ratio (<span data-bs-toggle="tooltip" data-bs-delay='{"show":0, "hide":300}' data-bs-html="true" title="Research by John Gottman on successful marriages suggests a ratio of approx. 5 positive interactions (like appreciation) to 1 negative one (like criticism) is optimal. Applied broadly here. <a href='https://www.gottman.com/' target='_blank' rel='noopener'>Gottman Institute</a>">~5:1</span>) of appreciation to criticism.</li> - <li>Masterful appreciation includes: <strong data-bs-toggle="tooltip" title="1. Sincerity (genuine feeling). 2. Unarguable truth (based on observation, not judgment). 3. Specificity (clear details). 4. Succinct language (often completable in one exhale).">Sincerity, Unarguable truth, Specificity, Succinct language</strong>.</li> - <li>Appreciation (recognizing value) grows connection, contrasting with <span data-bs-toggle="tooltip" title="Believing you deserve something without expressing gratitude. Expecting rewards/benefits automatically rather than appreciating them when given.">entitlement</span> (expecting rewards without gratitude).</li> + <li>Aim for a high ratio (<a class="expandable-trigger" data-bs-toggle="collapse" href="#collapse-apprec3" role="button" aria-expanded="false" aria-controls="collapse-apprec3">~5:1 <i class="bi bi-chevron-down"></i></a>) of appreciation to criticism.</li> + <div class="collapse expandable-content" id="collapse-apprec3"> + <p>Research by John Gottman on successful marriages suggests a ratio of approx. 5 positive interactions (like appreciation) to 1 negative one (like criticism) is optimal. Applied broadly here. <a href='https://www.gottman.com/' target='_blank' rel='noopener'>Gottman Institute</a></p> + </div> + <li>Masterful appreciation includes: <a class="expandable-trigger" data-bs-toggle="collapse" href="#collapse-apprec4" role="button" aria-expanded="false" aria-controls="collapse-apprec4"><strong>Sincerity, Unarguable truth, Specificity, Succinct language</strong> <i class="bi bi-chevron-down"></i></a>.</li> + <div class="collapse expandable-content" id="collapse-apprec4"> + <p>1. Sincerity (genuine feeling). 2. Unarguable truth (based on observation, not judgment). 3. Specificity (clear details). 4. Succinct language (often completable in one exhale).</p> + </div> + <li>Appreciation (recognizing value) grows connection, contrasting with <a class="expandable-trigger" data-bs-toggle="collapse" href="#collapse-apprec5" role="button" aria-expanded="false" aria-controls="collapse-apprec5">entitlement <i class="bi bi-chevron-down"></i></a> (expecting rewards without gratitude).</li> + <div class="collapse expandable-content" id="collapse-apprec5"> + <p>Believing you deserve something without expressing gratitude. Expecting rewards/benefits automatically rather than appreciating them when given.</p> + </div> </ul> </div> </div> @@ -397,12 +604,33 @@ <div class="info-card"> <div class="card-body"> <h5><i class="bi bi-stars"></i> 8: Excelling in Your Zone of Genius</h5> - <p class="card-text">Commit to expressing your full magnificence and supporting others to live in their <span data-bs-toggle="tooltip" data-bs-delay='{"show":0, "hide":300}' data-bs-html="true" title="Activities you are uniquely gifted for, love doing so much they don't feel like work, and that energize you. Often hard to self-identify because they feel natural. Concept from 'The Big Leap' by Gay Hendricks. <a href='https://hendricks.com/the-big-leap/' target='_blank' rel='noopener'>More Info</a>">zone of genius</span>.</p> + <p class="card-text">Commit to expressing your full magnificence and supporting others to live in their <a class="expandable-trigger" data-bs-toggle="collapse" href="#collapse-genius1" role="button" aria-expanded="false" aria-controls="collapse-genius1">zone of genius <i class="bi bi-chevron-down"></i></a>.</p> + <div class="collapse expandable-content" id="collapse-genius1"> + <p>Activities you are uniquely gifted for, love doing so much they don't feel like work, and that energize you. Often hard to self-identify because they feel natural. Concept from 'The Big Leap' by Gay Hendricks. <a href='https://hendricks.com/the-big-leap/' target='_blank' rel='noopener'>More Info</a></p> + </div> <ul> - <li>Identify activities aligned with innate talents and passions vs. zones of <strong data-bs-toggle="tooltip" title="Things you do poorly and dislike. Should be stopped or delegated.">Incompetence</strong>, <strong data-bs-toggle="tooltip" title="Things you do adequately but others could do as well or better; unsatisfying.">Competence</strong>, or <strong data-bs-toggle="tooltip" title="Things you do very well, get accolades for, but don't truly love or get energized by. Where many successful people get stuck.">Excellence</strong>.</li> + <li>Identify activities aligned with innate talents and passions vs. zones of <a class="expandable-trigger" data-bs-toggle="collapse" href="#collapse-genius2" role="button" aria-expanded="false" aria-controls="collapse-genius2"><strong>Incompetence</strong> <i class="bi bi-chevron-down"></i></a>, <a class="expandable-trigger" data-bs-toggle="collapse" href="#collapse-genius3" role="button" aria-expanded="false" aria-controls="collapse-genius3"><strong>Competence</strong> <i class="bi bi-chevron-down"></i></a>, or <a class="expandable-trigger" data-bs-toggle="collapse" href="#collapse-genius4" role="button" aria-expanded="false" aria-controls="collapse-genius4"><strong>Excellence</strong> <i class="bi bi-chevron-down"></i></a>.</li> + <div class="collapse expandable-content" id="collapse-genius2"> + <p>Things you do poorly and dislike. Should be stopped or delegated.</p> + </div> + <div class="collapse expandable-content" id="collapse-genius3"> + <p>Things you do adequately but others could do as well or better; unsatisfying.</p> + </div> + <div class="collapse expandable-content" id="collapse-genius4"> + <p>Things you do very well, get accolades for, but don't truly love or get energized by. Where many successful people get stuck.</p> + </div> <li>If an activity is a "dead-end" (Incompetence/Competence): stop, delegate, or do it differently (find play/creativity).</li> - <li>Fear often guards the line between Excellence and Genius, related to the <strong data-bs-toggle="tooltip" title="Unconscious beliefs that limit how much success, love, or happiness we allow ourselves, causing self-sabotage when things get 'too good'. Common limiting beliefs: feeling flawed, disloyalty, success as burden, outshining others.">Upper Limits Problem</strong> (Gay Hendricks).</li> - <li>Use tools like the <strong data-bs-toggle="tooltip" title="Emailing 30-50 contacts asking specific questions about when they see you most energized/at your best to identify genius themes.">Genius Email Exercise</strong> or <strong data-bs-toggle="tooltip" title="Analyzing ~8 stories from your life where you loved what you were doing AND did it well to find recurring genius patterns.">Best Stuff Exercise</strong> to identify your genius.</li> + <li>Fear often guards the line between Excellence and Genius, related to the <a class="expandable-trigger" data-bs-toggle="collapse" href="#collapse-genius5" role="button" aria-expanded="false" aria-controls="collapse-genius5"><strong>Upper Limits Problem</strong> <i class="bi bi-chevron-down"></i></a> (Gay Hendricks).</li> + <div class="collapse expandable-content" id="collapse-genius5"> + <p>Unconscious beliefs that limit how much success, love, or happiness we allow ourselves, causing self-sabotage when things get 'too good'. Common limiting beliefs: feeling flawed, disloyalty, success as burden, outshining others.</p> + </div> + <li>Use tools like the <a class="expandable-trigger" data-bs-toggle="collapse" href="#collapse-genius6" role="button" aria-expanded="false" aria-controls="collapse-genius6"><strong>Genius Email Exercise</strong> <i class="bi bi-chevron-down"></i></a> or <a class="expandable-trigger" data-bs-toggle="collapse" href="#collapse-genius7" role="button" aria-expanded="false" aria-controls="collapse-genius7"><strong>Best Stuff Exercise</strong> <i class="bi bi-chevron-down"></i></a> to identify your genius.</li> + <div class="collapse expandable-content" id="collapse-genius6"> + <p>Emailing 30-50 contacts asking specific questions about when they see you most energized/at your best to identify genius themes.</p> + </div> + <div class="collapse expandable-content" id="collapse-genius7"> + <p>Analyzing ~8 stories from your life where you loved what you were doing AND did it well to find recurring genius patterns.</p> + </div> </ul> </div> </div> @@ -412,13 +640,31 @@ <div class="info-card"> <div class="card-body"> <h5><i class="bi bi-joystick"></i> 9: Living a Life of Play and Rest</h5> - <p class="card-text">Commit to creating <span data-bs-toggle="tooltip" title="Absorbing, apparently purposeless activity providing enjoyment, suspending self-consciousness and sense of time. Self-motivating. Contrasts with seriousness, effort, and struggle.">play</span>, <span data-bs-toggle="tooltip" title="Adapting creatively to what life presents ('Yes, And...') instead of trying to force or control outcomes.">improvisation</span>, and laughter. Maximize <span data-bs-toggle="tooltip" title="Managing physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual energy (as per Loehr & Schwartz) is key to sustainable performance and well-being, more vital than just time management.">energy</span> by honoring rest, renewal, and rhythm.</p> + <p class="card-text">Commit to creating <a class="expandable-trigger" data-bs-toggle="collapse" href="#collapse-play1" role="button" aria-expanded="false" aria-controls="collapse-play1">play <i class="bi bi-chevron-down"></i></a>, <a class="expandable-trigger" data-bs-toggle="collapse" href="#collapse-play2" role="button" aria-expanded="false" aria-controls="collapse-play2">improvisation <i class="bi bi-chevron-down"></i></a>, and laughter. Maximize <a class="expandable-trigger" data-bs-toggle="collapse" href="#collapse-play3" role="button" aria-expanded="false" aria-controls="collapse-play3">energy <i class="bi bi-chevron-down"></i></a> by honoring rest, renewal, and rhythm.</p> + <div class="collapse expandable-content" id="collapse-play1"> + <p>Absorbing, apparently purposeless activity providing enjoyment, suspending self-consciousness and sense of time. Self-motivating. Contrasts with seriousness, effort, and struggle.</p> + </div> + <div class="collapse expandable-content" id="collapse-play2"> + <p>Adapting creatively to what life presents ('Yes, And...') instead of trying to force or control outcomes.</p> + </div> + <div class="collapse expandable-content" id="collapse-play3"> + <p>Managing physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual energy (as per Loehr & Schwartz) is key to sustainable performance and well-being, more vital than just time management.</p> + </div> <ul> <li>See life unfold easefully and effortlessly, releasing struggle.</li> - <li>Co-create playfully with others (e.g., using <strong data-bs-toggle="tooltip" title="Playfully adopting different roles or attitudes to shift perspective and unlock creativity, especially when stuck or in conflict.">Persona Play</strong>).</li> + <li>Co-create playfully with others (e.g., using <a class="expandable-trigger" data-bs-toggle="collapse" href="#collapse-play4" role="button" aria-expanded="false" aria-controls="collapse-play4"><strong>Persona Play</strong> <i class="bi bi-chevron-down"></i></a>).</li> + <div class="collapse expandable-content" id="collapse-play4"> + <p>Playfully adopting different roles or attitudes to shift perspective and unlock creativity, especially when stuck or in conflict.</p> + </div> <li>Laughter (genuine, lighthearted) indicates playfulness.</li> - <li>Rest (naps, breaks, sleep, Sabbath) boosts productivity and creativity (<span data-bs-toggle="tooltip" title="Studies cited (e.g., NASA, David Rock) show breaks/rest improve focus and problem-solving, countering the 'busier is better' myth.">research cited</span>).</li> - <li>Energy management requires honoring natural life rhythms (sleep/wake, seasons, sprint/recovery). Confront <strong data-bs-toggle="tooltip" title="Compulsive working (excessive hours, constant checking, obsessive thinking) used to avoid facing present-moment experiences (feelings, stillness). Common and often denied addiction.">Workaholism</strong>.</li> + <li>Rest (naps, breaks, sleep, Sabbath) boosts productivity and creativity (<a class="expandable-trigger" data-bs-toggle="collapse" href="#collapse-play5" role="button" aria-expanded="false" aria-controls="collapse-play5">research cited <i class="bi bi-chevron-down"></i></a>).</li> + <div class="collapse expandable-content" id="collapse-play5"> + <p>Studies cited (e.g., NASA, David Rock) show breaks/rest improve focus and problem-solving, countering the 'busier is better' myth.</p> + </div> + <li>Energy management requires honoring natural life rhythms (sleep/wake, seasons, sprint/recovery). Confront <a class="expandable-trigger" data-bs-toggle="collapse" href="#collapse-play6" role="button" aria-expanded="false" aria-controls="collapse-play6"><strong>Workaholism</strong> <i class="bi bi-chevron-down"></i></a>.</li> + <div class="collapse expandable-content" id="collapse-play6"> + <p>Compulsive working (excessive hours, constant checking, obsessive thinking) used to avoid facing present-moment experiences (feelings, stillness). Common and often denied addiction.</p> + </div> </ul> </div> </div> @@ -428,11 +674,17 @@ <div class="info-card"> <div class="card-body"> <h5><i class="bi bi-arrow-left-right"></i> 10: Exploring the Opposite</h5> - <p class="card-text">Commit to seeing that the opposite of your story (<span data-bs-toggle="tooltip" title="Your beliefs, interpretations, judgments, and meanings you assign to reality. Stories are made up, not objective facts. Believing stories cause suffering.">story</span>) is as true or truer than the original.</p> + <p class="card-text">Commit to seeing that the opposite of your story (<a class="expandable-trigger" data-bs-toggle="collapse" href="#collapse-opp1" role="button" aria-expanded="false" aria-controls="collapse-opp1">story <i class="bi bi-chevron-down"></i></a>) is as true or truer than the original.</p> + <div class="collapse expandable-content" id="collapse-opp1"> + <p>Your beliefs, interpretations, judgments, and meanings you assign to reality. Stories are made up, not objective facts. Believing stories cause suffering.</p> + </div> <ul> <li>Recognize you interpret the world; life itself has no inherent labels until we assign them. Take responsibility for being the "labeler."</li> <li>Question all labels and the need to be right about your story.</li> - <li>Use inquiry methods like <span data-bs-toggle="tooltip" data-bs-delay='{"show":100, "hide":150}' data-bs-html="true" title="A process of inquiry created by Byron Katie involving four questions (Is it true? Can you absolutely know...? How do you react...? Who would you be without the thought?) and turnarounds (finding truth in opposites) to investigate stressful thoughts/stories. <a href='https://thework.com/en/' target='_blank' rel='noopener'>Official Site</a>">"The Work"</span> to become curious about all possibilities.</li> + <li>Use inquiry methods like <a class="expandable-trigger" data-bs-toggle="collapse" href="#collapse-opp2" role="button" aria-expanded="false" aria-controls="collapse-opp2">"The Work" <i class="bi bi-chevron-down"></i></a> to become curious about all possibilities.</li> + <div class="collapse expandable-content" id="collapse-opp2"> + <p>A process of inquiry created by Byron Katie involving four questions (Is it true? Can you absolutely know...? How do you react...? Who would you be without the thought?) and turnarounds (finding truth in opposites) to investigate stressful thoughts/stories. <a href='https://thework.com/en/' target='_blank' rel='noopener'>Official Site</a></p> + </div> <li>Remain unattached to outcomes or needing your story to be 'right'. Shift from certainty to curiosity.</li> </ul> </div> @@ -443,11 +695,26 @@ <div class="info-card"> <div class="card-body"> <h5><i class="bi bi-person-check-fill"></i> 11: Sourcing Approval, Control & Security</h5> - <p class="card-text">Commit to being the <span data-bs-toggle="tooltip" title="Generating these feelings from within, based on inherent self-worth, self-acceptance and trust in life/self, rather than needing external circumstances, validation, or actions from others to provide them. Recognizing you already ARE/HAVE what you seek.">source</span> of your own approval, control, and security.</p> + <p class="card-text">Commit to being the <a class="expandable-trigger" data-bs-toggle="collapse" href="#collapse-source1" role="button" aria-expanded="false" aria-controls="collapse-source1">source <i class="bi bi-chevron-down"></i></a> of your own approval, control, and security.</p> + <div class="collapse expandable-content" id="collapse-source1"> + <p>Generating these feelings from within, based on inherent self-worth, self-acceptance and trust in life/self, rather than needing external circumstances, validation, or actions from others to provide them. Recognizing you already ARE/HAVE what you seek.</p> + </div> <ul> - <li>Humans' core wants: <strong data-bs-toggle="tooltip" title="Desire to be loved, liked, valued, respected, belong.">approval</strong>, <strong data-bs-toggle="tooltip" title="Desire to manage outcomes, people, self, circumstances.">control</strong>, <strong data-bs-toggle="tooltip" title="Desire for safety, survival (physical, financial, relational).">security</strong>. Seeking them externally ("out-there-ness", "if-only-ness") leads to suffering because it stems from a belief in lack.</li> - <li>The issue isn't the wants themselves, but the <strong data-bs-toggle="tooltip" title="The act of wanting implies lack. Recognizing that you inherently possess approval, control (over your responses), and security shifts the focus from seeking to experiencing.">"wanting"</strong>, which implies lack.</li> - <li>Use release techniques like <span data-bs-toggle="tooltip" data-bs-delay='{"show":100, "hide":150}' data-bs-html="true" title="A simple technique taught by Hale Dwoskin for letting go of limiting feelings and beliefs (like wanting) by welcoming them and asking simple questions (Could I welcome this? Does it stem from wanting A/C/S? Could I let it go?). <a href='https://www.sedona.com/' target='_blank' rel='noopener'>Official Site</a>">The Sedona Method:</span> + <li>Humans' core wants: <a class="expandable-trigger" data-bs-toggle="collapse" href="#collapse-source2" role="button" aria-expanded="false" aria-controls="collapse-source2"><strong>approval</strong> <i class="bi bi-chevron-down"></i></a>, <a class="expandable-trigger" data-bs-toggle="collapse" href="#collapse-source3" role="button" aria-expanded="false" aria-controls="collapse-source3"><strong>control</strong> <i class="bi bi-chevron-down"></i></a>, <a class="expandable-trigger" data-bs-toggle="collapse" href="#collapse-source4" role="button" aria-expanded="false" aria-controls="collapse-source4"><strong>security</strong> <i class="bi bi-chevron-down"></i></a>. Seeking them externally ("out-there-ness", "if-only-ness") leads to suffering because it stems from a belief in lack.</li> + <div class="collapse expandable-content" id="collapse-source2"> + <p>Desire to be loved, liked, valued, respected, belong.</p> + </div> + <div class="collapse expandable-content" id="collapse-source3"> + <p>Desire to manage outcomes, people, self, circumstances.</p> + </div> + <div class="collapse expandable-content" id="collapse-source4"> + <p>Desire for safety, survival (physical, financial, relational).</p> + </div> + <li>The issue isn't the wants themselves, but the <a class="expandable-trigger" data-bs-toggle="collapse" href="#collapse-source5" role="button" aria-expanded="false" aria-controls="collapse-source5"><strong>"wanting"</strong> <i class="bi bi-chevron-down"></i></a>, which implies lack.</li> + <div class="collapse expandable-content" id="collapse-source5"> + <p>The act of wanting implies lack. Recognizing that you inherently possess approval, control (over your responses), and security shifts the focus from seeking to experiencing.</p> + </div> + <li>Use release techniques like <a class="expandable-trigger" data-bs-toggle="collapse" href="#collapse-source6" role="button" aria-expanded="false" aria-controls="collapse-source6">The Sedona Method: <i class="bi bi-chevron-down"></i></a> <ol> <li>Identify the wanting.</li> <li>Welcome the wanting (allow it).</li> @@ -455,6 +722,15 @@ <li>Welcome it again; consider letting it go (Could I? Would I? When?).</li> </ol> </li> + <div class="collapse expandable-content" id="collapse-source6"> + <p>A simple technique taught by Hale Dwoskin for letting go of limiting feelings and beliefs (like wanting) by welcoming them and asking simple questions (Could I welcome this? Does it stem from wanting A/C/S? Could I let it go?). <a href='https://www.sedona.com/' target='_blank' rel='noopener'>Official Site</a></p> + <ol> + <li>Identify the wanting.</li> + <li>Welcome the wanting (allow it).</li> + <li>Identify if it stems from seeking approval/control/security.</li> + <li>Welcome it again; consider letting it go (Could I? Would I? When?).</li> + </ol> + </div> <li>Rest as the awareness beyond wanting; experience inherent wholeness.</li> </ul> </div> @@ -465,15 +741,27 @@ <div class="info-card"> <div class="card-body"> <h5><i class="bi bi-infinity"></i> 12: Having Enough of Everything</h5> - <p class="card-text">Commit to experiencing <span data-bs-toggle="tooltip" title="An internal state, context, or declaration of having/being enough (time, money, love, energy, resources), independent of external amounts. It's a knowing, not a quantity. Contrasts with scarcity mindset.">sufficiency</span> – having enough.</p> + <p class="card-text">Commit to experiencing <a class="expandable-trigger" data-bs-toggle="collapse" href="#collapse-suff1" role="button" aria-expanded="false" aria-controls="collapse-suff1">sufficiency <i class="bi bi-chevron-down"></i></a> – having enough.</p> + <div class="collapse expandable-content" id="collapse-suff1"> + <p>An internal state, context, or declaration of having/being enough (time, money, love, energy, resources), independent of external amounts. It's a knowing, not a quantity. Contrasts with scarcity mindset.</p> + </div> <ul> - <li>Challenge <span data-bs-toggle="tooltip" data-bs-delay='{"show":100, "hide":150}' data-bs-html="true" title="Identified by Lynne Twist in 'The Soul of Money': <br>1. Not Enough (fear-based belief resources are limited). <br>2. More is Better (constant pursuit, never arriving). <br>3. That's Just the Way It Is (hopelessness/resignation about scarcity). <br>These justify unfulfillment and competition. <a href='https://soulofmoney.org/' target='_blank' rel='noopener'>More Info</a>">toxic myths of scarcity</span>: + <li>Challenge <a class="expandable-trigger" data-bs-toggle="collapse" href="#collapse-suff2" role="button" aria-expanded="false" aria-controls="collapse-suff2">toxic myths of scarcity <i class="bi bi-chevron-down"></i></a>: <ol> <li>There is never enough.</li> <li>More is better.</li> <li>That's just the way it is (hopeless/helpless).</li> </ol> </li> + <div class="collapse expandable-content" id="collapse-suff2"> + <p>Identified by Lynne Twist in 'The Soul of Money':</p> + <ol> + <li>Not Enough (fear-based belief resources are limited).</li> + <li>More is Better (constant pursuit, never arriving).</li> + <li>That's Just the Way It Is (hopelessness/resignation about scarcity).</li> + </ol> + <p class="small mb-0">These justify unfulfillment and competition. <a href='https://soulofmoney.org/' target='_blank' rel='noopener'>More Info</a></p> + </div> <li>Sufficiency is not an amount; it's an experience, a context, a knowing. "There is enough and we are enough." Shift perspective (e.g., time perception, money value) and practice presence (in the 'now', there is always enough).</li> <li>Collaboration grounded in sufficiency creates prosperity (Lynne Twist).</li> </ul> @@ -485,7 +773,10 @@ <div class="info-card"> <div class="card-body"> <h5><i class="bi bi-people"></i> 13: Experiencing the World as an Ally</h5> - <p class="card-text">Commit to seeing all people and circumstances as <span data-bs-toggle="tooltip" title="Viewing challenges, difficulties, and even adversaries not as obstacles or enemies, but as opportunities or partners perfectly designed for your learning and growth. They don't need to intend to be allies; it's your perspective.">allies</span> perfectly suited for your growth.</p> + <p class="card-text">Commit to seeing all people and circumstances as <a class="expandable-trigger" data-bs-toggle="collapse" href="#collapse-ally1" role="button" aria-expanded="false" aria-controls="collapse-ally1">allies <i class="bi bi-chevron-down"></i></a> perfectly suited for your growth.</p> + <div class="collapse expandable-content" id="collapse-ally1"> + <p>Viewing challenges, difficulties, and even adversaries not as obstacles or enemies, but as opportunities or partners perfectly designed for your learning and growth. They don't need to intend to be allies; it's your perspective.</p> + </div> <ul> <li>Shift out of comparison and competition; see everyone as equally valuable contributors to your learning.</li> <li>Welcome pressure and challenge as catalysts for awakening, emergence, or growth (like muscles growing stronger after breakdown).</li> @@ -500,11 +791,20 @@ <div class="info-card"> <div class="card-body"> <h5><i class="bi bi-diagram-3"></i> 14: Creating Win-for-All Solutions</h5> - <p class="card-text">Commit to creating solutions that are a <span data-bs-toggle="tooltip" title="Seeking outcomes that benefit all stakeholders involved (win for me, win for the other, win for the organization, win for the whole system). Moves beyond win/lose (competition) or lose/lose (compromise) thinking rooted in scarcity.">win for all</span> involved.</p> + <p class="card-text">Commit to creating solutions that are a <a class="expandable-trigger" data-bs-toggle="collapse" href="#collapse-win1" role="button" aria-expanded="false" aria-controls="collapse-win1">win for all <i class="bi bi-chevron-down"></i></a> involved.</p> + <div class="collapse expandable-content" id="collapse-win1"> + <p>Seeking outcomes that benefit all stakeholders involved (win for me, win for the other, win for the organization, win for the whole system). Moves beyond win/lose (competition) or lose/lose (compromise) thinking rooted in scarcity.</p> + </div> <ul> <li>Address issues considering the benefit for you, others, the organization, and the wider system/whole.</li> <li>Requires shifting from scarcity (zero-sum game) to sufficiency (enough resources for all).</li> - <li>Relies on <strong data-bs-toggle="tooltip" title="Working together from a place of curiosity, candor, support, and sufficiency to find novel solutions benefiting everyone.">collaboration</strong> rather than competition (win/lose) or <span data-bs-toggle="tooltip" title="Often requires each party to give something up, leading to suboptimal outcomes for everyone (lose/lose).">compromise</span> (often lose/lose).</li> + <li>Relies on <a class="expandable-trigger" data-bs-toggle="collapse" href="#collapse-win2" role="button" aria-expanded="false" aria-controls="collapse-win2"><strong>collaboration</strong> <i class="bi bi-chevron-down"></i></a> rather than competition (win/lose) or <a class="expandable-trigger" data-bs-toggle="collapse" href="#collapse-win3" role="button" aria-expanded="false" aria-controls="collapse-win3">compromise <i class="bi bi-chevron-down"></i></a> (often lose/lose).</li> + <div class="collapse expandable-content" id="collapse-win2"> + <p>Working together from a place of curiosity, candor, support, and sufficiency to find novel solutions benefiting everyone.</p> + </div> + <div class="collapse expandable-content" id="collapse-win3"> + <p>Often requires each party to give something up, leading to suboptimal outcomes for everyone (lose/lose).</p> + </div> <li>Integrates other commitments like Candor (C4), Curiosity (C2), Sufficiency (C12), and Allies (C13).</li> </ul> </div> @@ -515,7 +815,10 @@ <div class="info-card"> <div class="card-body"> <h5><i class="bi bi-puzzle"></i> 15: Being the Resolution</h5> - <p class="card-text">Commit to <span data-bs-toggle="tooltip" title="Seeing what seems 'missing' or 'wrong' in the world not as a problem/lack, but as an invitation to embody the solution yourself. Becoming the change, contribution, or quality that is needed, rather than just identifying a gap or blaming. Starts with Being/Becoming, then Doing flows naturally.">being the resolution</span> or solution that is needed.</p> + <p class="card-text">Commit to <a class="expandable-trigger" data-bs-toggle="collapse" href="#collapse-res1" role="button" aria-expanded="false" aria-controls="collapse-res1">being the resolution <i class="bi bi-chevron-down"></i></a> or solution that is needed.</p> + <div class="collapse expandable-content" id="collapse-res1"> + <p>Seeing what seems 'missing' or 'wrong' in the world not as a problem/lack, but as an invitation to embody the solution yourself. Becoming the change, contribution, or quality that is needed, rather than just identifying a gap or blaming. Starts with Being/Becoming, then Doing flows naturally.</p> + </div> <ul> <li>See what's perceived as missing (e.g., communication, beauty, efficiency) not as lack, but as an invitation from life/the universe.</li> <li>Accept the invitation (if a whole body YES) to embody the required quality or contribution.</li> @@ -537,14 +840,15 @@ <a href="https://readingraphics.com/book-summary-the-15-commitments-of-conscious-leadership/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Readingraphics Summary</a> | <a href="https://www.20minutebooks.com/the-15-commitments-of-conscious-leadership" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">20 Minute Books Summary</a> </p> - <p>Adapted from prior summaries by Human First Works & Selling Sherpa (Sep 2023). <br> © 2025 David Veksler. Please verify information with primary sources.</p> + <p>Adapted from prior summaries by Human First Works & Selling Sherpa (Sep 2023). <br> © 2025 David Veksler. 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